It’s a feeling we all experience yet tend to think is unique to ourselves. Most women present a facade to the world and keep their insecurity locked inside.
Watch an elegant woman at a party. Every hair is in place and her clothes are perfect. She seems confident and relaxed, cool and unflappable. There, you think, is a woman who feels secure.
But what that woman has learned is to channel her insecurities and fears, how to feel relaxed in spite of the pressures of life, how to feel in control of herself.
Begin with an honest evaluation. Study yourself in a mirror. Pick out the good points and the bad points, then decide how you can make improvements.
But don’t be too hard on yourself. That’s self-defeating and demoralizing.
Choosing The Right Style
The problem of dressing can be confusing because of fashion trends. The fashionable woman is one who conforms to the latest styles. But that goes against the whole idea of being yourself, not an imitation of someone else.
It is more important to be pretty as a woman than to be fashionable. A good way around the changing style problem is to adapt styles to your own personality.
Spend a lot of time studying yourself in the mirror when you try on clothes and when you wear them. Then you’ll learn what’s best and most attractive for you.
Make sure your clothes fit well and train your eye to see proportion.
Proportion may have to do with scale, the size of a print or a stripe. If you’re tall, you’re lucky because you can wear almost anything, large prints, bold patterns and all the lengths.
A smaller woman usually looks better in a scaled-down print and she shouldn’t wear extremely high heels. But she doesn’t have to be dainty and all-feminine. We don’t like the word “feminine” because it always sounds like ruffles and lace and that’s too fussy – not the way you want to look today.
Proportion is also length; not trendy lengths but the length of a skirt that makes your legs look good. Sleeve lengths are important, too.
Women with heavy arms can wear a short sleeve, women with thin arms can wear a shorter sleeve, but you have to make certain that it covers an unattractive bulge or a bony elbow.
The same holds good with tops. Longer tunics, cardigans and smock tops cover nippiness.
Anything that calls too much attention to what you’re wearing or how you’re wearing it is wrong. You can’t let your clothes take over or overpower you. People shouldn’t comment on the beautiful color of a dress. They should notice that the color and style look wonderful on you.
The same is true for figure faults. If your legs are bad and you wear your skirts long in order to hide them, you’re just calling attention to them.
Instead wear something that attracts the eye to the top to your good features.
Accessories are fun but they should never be self-conscious or too studied. They should add something fresh to an outfit and create a good mood.